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You may have lost someone you love because of death. The pain, unbearable at the onset eases as time moves. You learn to live with it.

Weaving into the flow of your life, this pain becomes an experience that loses its sting the moment you decide that you won’t get stuck. You have two choices. Would you stay bitter or would you shift your mindset and allow this experience to turn into a springboard transforming you? Would you choose to lead others toward the refreshing shore of gratitude?

While the wound is fresh, you can’t think straight. The storm rules your emotions. This is the point where you allow people to love you. Immerse in activities that you are passionate about. The storm simmers down slowly and the pain gradually dissipates. Soon, the flood of good memories become stories of gratitude. Would you be grateful that you experienced life with your beloved?

Can you redefine your loss to make it life-giving, inspiration-generating and soul-encouraging? Instead of looking at it as a subtraction, can you mold your loss to see it as an addition; that despite all and with the even ifs, you can still be grateful and live with and add joy to others?

Today, can you see in you the wealth of love you can give? Do you imagine how you can help others see love in themselves too? Can you see the pricelessness of every gesture of love you receive?

We can look beyond loss. It takes time, to each, a different timeline. I know. I, too, experienced this kind of loss. Refocusing my lenses on adding, my perspective changes.

To life, fully,

Joji